I (F25) can’t afford my boyfriend (M30) This is taking a toll on my finances, how do I bring it up without seeming greedy?

Liz Fe Lifestyle Team
6 min readMay 11, 2024

Well, as I explained in the title, I’m (F25) having this issue with my boyfriend (M30), whom I’ve been dating for a year. Overall, we’ve had a pretty good relationship and I’m happy.

When we started dating, I discovered he was very frugal, which was great because so am I! However, as the year has gone by I’ve started noticing that his concept of frugal is very different to mine, and it’s reached a point where it’s putting a strain on my finances since I’m kind of ‘supporting’ both of us. Here are a few examples:

  • Unless I suggest otherwise and plan dates, we never go out. If we do go out, he’ll only go if I pay for whatever activity I’ve planned. He’s good with not going out on dates and just staying home, which I like but it gets boring after a while
  • He doesn’t do grocery shopping and doesn’t like cooking, he only gets take out or once in a while he gets a meal delivery service. A lot of times, when I go over to his place and I get hungry I’m either stuck eating junk food snacks (I prefer to starve than eating processed trash) or I have to go grocery shopping and pay it out of my own pocket, and then cook for both of us
  • He eats a lot, and whenever he comes to my…

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