31M and 32F (me) Husband told me I’m not his family on Mother’s Day?

Mother’s Day is here. My husband and I have been together for 4 years and he has never done anything for me for birthdays, Valentine’s Day, Christmas, Mother’s Day besides a card that always is more of an apology. I do things for him every year… because I love him… surprise birthday parties, Father’s Day surprises, every thing. One month ago I threw him a big birthday party and I was so excited. I know some of yall are probably thinking why do I do this if he isn’t doing anything for you but I thought maybe he would change and I love him. I treat people how I want to be treated and I try to let things go. Well This mother day comes around and he slides me a card…. And I don’t know what happened within me but I said “is this more of an apology letter starting off with the words I’m sorry” and he said yes why? And I just walked away. I came back later to talk to him and I explained that all year long he does these cards and I save them because it’s the one thing he does for me and how neglected and lonely I feel all year around and he just does a card apologizing but his actions don’t change. It’s like a reminder that even on a day for me to feel loved… I’m stuck with a sad card and it makes me sad when I should feel happy.

He told me that he used to do the long letters to his ex wife and all of that but he changed after she hurt…